The Cancer Husband's blog

So if you didn't get to see me on Lorraine this morning with Steve Bland and Matt Crow, You can catch up via the ITV Player, you do have to register but its free. It appears at 8:47am so about 17 minutes into the show. Lorraine - ITV player

I was recently invited by Steve Bland of the podcast You Me and the Big C to join him and another friend, Matt to talk about our experiences as widowers, of both helping someone through Cancer and also our grief when we lose them as part of some work he is doing for the Lorraine… Continue reading Getting men to talk about their grief →

We have recently returned from our first holiday without Jo. It was a holiday that Jo had booked, we had planned it for once she finished her treatment. When we realised that Jo's treatment was going to be extended, we had considered cancelling it, but Jo said we should wait and see. When Jo knew… Continue reading First Holiday without Jo. →

FANCY JOINING ME FOR A FUN NIGHT OUT WHILST RAISING MONEY FOR Cancer Research UK? On 29th June there will be a truly unmissable event at East Sussex National Golf Resort & Spa in aid of Cancer Research UK. This event is open to EVERYONE! If you or someone you know has been affected by… Continue reading Charity Dinner and Auction 29th June →

11 weeks on, what have I been up to and how am I doing? So firstly what have I done? I had my nieces wedding in Scotland which was the first family gathering since Jo’s funeral. We had a fabulous weekend in Scotland with all my family, the wedding was great fun and my daughter… Continue reading Ceilidh, WAY and spirit stuff. →

On Wednesday 6th March I attended a Book launch event at Waterstones in Tottenham Court Road discussing the book written by the late great Rachael Bland called 'For Freddie'. She wrote the book for her three year old son Freddie, in the last months of her life telling him all about herself and who she… Continue reading Talking!! →

So a month has passed since Jo died, it's still all a bit surreal in some ways, the funeral went off as well as I could have hoped and there was a huge turnout. Looking back on that now, I really don't think it could have gone any better. I had worried a lot at… Continue reading One month on!! →

For those outside of the UK, you may be surprised to know it can take 2-4 weeks from death to funeral, but that is what it can take and in our case the funeral was 2 weeks and 1 day after Jo's death. The day came and I had been told that it would be… Continue reading What a send off!! →

As many of you may have seen through my twitter feed, I just wanted to confirm that my gorgeous wife Joanne Hewitt was taken from me on Wednesday 23rd January. She died peacefully and surrounded by family, but at 43 this was way too soon and I am truly heartbroken. Thank you all so much… Continue reading Joanne Hewitt – 1975 – 2019 →

When we knew Jo's diagnosis was incurable, we discussed the topic of where Jo would prefer to die. It's a tough topic but one we knew we would have to discuss and also be pragmatic about. There were elements we could control, but we also knew there might be issues that we couldn't foresee and… Continue reading End of life care at home →